Is it a boy or a girl?
We have one of each. For some reason, we semi-agreed that when we had one of each, we would not want to find out the gender our children born thereafter. Well folks, we have reached that time. Here we are.
And so our Great Debate has begun.
Matt is set on not finding out the gender. I am undecided. Some days I have a fantasy of the excitement of what it would be like to have the baby come out a pure mystery of what gender it is! Other days, it panics me that I would not know! I really, really want to know what it is. But you cannot split gender finding between parents; it just does not work that way.
We have everything we need for a baby, boy or girl. Clothes for each are boxed up in our attic, and ready to go at a moments notice. So, really, it could go either way.
So, what did you do? What should I do???? I really can't decide.
**EDIT** We have been taking a tally. :) Thanks for the votes! haha.
8 comments:
Well, I've told you our story. We had one of each and we weren't going to find out and then I whimped out and we ended up finding out. It's SO hard to say. I love finding out. I love knowing and preparing, but part of me is still disappointed that we didn't keep our third a surprise. As much as I REALLY want you to find out and I really do want you to find out, I'd say don't do it. You'll be thankful for it in the future.
From a doula standpoint, I LOVE IT when clients don't find out. It's SO fun! I'd wait. We're not finding out for baby #4 whenever that may be.
Ooh, I hate not knowing, even when it's somebody else's baby. I don't know why. So find out already!
P.S. congratulations!!
I always say it's just as much of a surprise at 20 weeks as it is at 40!!! I like knowing, but Dan does too, so that definitely makes a difference. Good luck! I can't wait to hear, either next week or when he/she if born!
That is a great debate. Good luck. I have no tips or opinions, because I can see advantages to both. But as I told Lyndsay, you two are probably both having girls, because I always seem to have the opposite of everyone else. Good luck deciding, and let us know if you do find out.
TOTALLY WAIT GIRL! It's so much more fun. I remembered being surprised after every one of my brothers was born (and of course I was always hoping for a sister!). Wait it out!
Well you know I've always been a girl who likes surprises... and I've always thought I want to wait, but I just don't know... this is a tough one. I say if you can hold off. But what do you do about buying a few fun new things? But a little of both an then return the other ones??
I think being surprised sounds so exciting! It would just be such a special and unique experience to carry that little person for nine months and then get to meet them without any preconceived ideas about who they were going to be.
But of course I understand the need to know too! You want to plan and prepare and enjoy the anticipation of bringing a new person into your family. And that's hard to do when you don't even know the most fundamental thing about who that person is going to be.
So, I'm not much help either.
But I can tell you that whoever (s)he is, we are talking about one lucky baby who gets to be part of your family.
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